Why Is It So Hard To Find Real Men Any More?

By Lubomir Dimitrov MSc,

Professional Astrologer, Australia

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In the first part of this article and in the article “The Age of Aquarius” published in the previous two issues of “Universal Mind” magazine we outlined some of the reasons why is it so hard to find real men any more. It was pointed out that every 2,000 years or so, the planetary influences on Earth change dramatically in order to reflect the new evolutionary impulses. All souls, who happen to be incarnated in human bodies on the border between the 20th and the 21st century, have the unique opportunity to experience the global changes associated with the waning of the Age of Pisces and the waxing of the Age of Aquarius. This global planetary change can induce a lot of apprehension and fear if these processes are not understood properly. As far as the relations between men and women are concerned, what was typical for the Age of Pisces – a life-time lasting, exclusive and total union between a man and a woman is now extensively becoming obsolete. The new Age of Aquarius requires a new “family” model, which is going to be based on independence, originality and freedom.

In the previous articles we took a brief history tour in order to point out that the traditional family model as we know it today, existed only for the last 2,000 years, which is a relatively short period in the human evolution. Before that, the attitude of the ancient Greeks and Romans (and before that Egyptians, Chaldeans, Persians and so on), had completely different views about a family structure. Thus, if observing the changes in the society for the last 20-30 years only, the difference can seem huge, but the picture looks completely different from a higher angle, when observing the evolution of the humanity in the last, let’s say 6-7 thousand years.

The single most important element in the relationships between men and women that is completely new for the Age of Aquarius and which cannot be traced back in all other epochs, is the total emancipation and independence of women. This impulse for women’s liberation is really very new; it is only about 30-40 years old, which shows us that in its essence it is a typical “Aquarian” deed. Naturally, this is to be expected from this sign, which is essentially associated with liberty, freedom, independence and humanism. We know that each of the big, evolutionary Ages last approximately 2,000 years, but going back to the age of Pisces, Aries, Taurus and even Gemini we are cannot find a society where women have an equal say in the social and political life as it is at present. The question arises why women in previous times were always in a submissive, subservient role? Couldn’t they just get organized as they did in the late 60’s, to form a women’s liberation movement and fight for their rights in previous epochs?

To answer this question we have to immerse ourselves in the atmosphere of the previous times and try to submerge into the type of thinking that the ancient people used to possess. First of all it would be very wrong to think that ancient people used to have exactly the same type of logical and conceptual thinking as it is normal for the modern men. The abilities of modern men to think logically in concepts became more or less prominent in the last 500-600 years; the very first traces of such thinking were established by Pythagoras in ancient Greece. Before that, people were largely driven by spiritual impulses rather than from intellectual conclusions, typical for modern men. Their spiritual and religious beliefs were playing a crucial role in their life. They did not reason about the possibility of existence of God; they knew that God existed. They did not wonder if there is life after death; they felt directly the presence of their death relatives around them. They did not analyze if their actions are good or bad, because they sensed directly what consequences their actions had in the spiritual world.

So, if we immerse ourselves into the spirit of those past epochs we will see that in all their actions, ancient people were driven directly from the impulses coming from the spiritual world. Modern men today can have only a vague idea of the impulses that drove those people through life. This is largely because it is extremely difficult to grasp the spiritual truths using as a tool only our conceptual and analytical thinking. Something else has to help us in this process and this “something else” has to come from the heart. Unfortunately, the vast majority of people close their hearts and rely on the conceptual thinking only, thus losing the opportunity to comprehend even the most minuscule spiritual truths.

The single most important source of spiritual wisdom, available for modern men remains the Bible. However, we should bear in mind two important points about it. First of all, this key spiritual document was written relatively late in the human history; the new Testament is less then 2,000 years old. The reason for this is that humans in previous times did not rely on written text as it is the case with the humanity today – most of them being clairvoyant could tap directly to the source of spiritual wisdom and extract from there whatever truths they needed. And naturally, if something is obvious for most people then there is no need to produce written evidence about it.

The second point is that most of the truths stated in the Bible are actually coded and cannot be read in everyday, ordinary language. In order to extract these truths, the person, who reads the Bible should be in a possession of a special knowledge, or “keys” as to how to decipher the text in it. There is a reason why the Bible was written in this way. In its development it was envisaged that humanity undergoes a slow “descent” throughout the ages until it completely emerges into the matter. That meant that people had to gradually lose their clairvoyant abilities in order to develop the rational and conceptual thinking. That changed from the point when Christ came to earth. From this point onwards the people were given a choice. They could either “ascend” to gain the spiritual truths again, stepping on their new logical-thinking abilities, or they could chose to “descend” even further into the matter, thus blocking for themselves any opportunities for further spiritual development. Thus, the Bible was written using special coded language and the keys to de-code this language were made available only to those who chose to embark on the first path of development and achieved some level of initiation in the ancient Mysteries.

The call of the time today – in the Age of Aquarius – is to make this ancient wisdom available to everybody again, through publishing some of the “keys” which are necessary to read the Bible properly to the general public. Some of these “keys” can be obtained from the occult literature (theosophy and anthroposophy in particular) and some of them can be obtained through clairvoyance or with the help of astrology. In this article we will use one of this “keys” that will shed more light on the question why the role of women in previous ages was traditionally subservient?

We all know from the Bible the story of the Fall of Adam and Eve. In the beginning of times Adam and Eve lived in the Garden of Eden, where everything was provided for them and they lived opulently and care-fee. The only thing that God forbade them to do was to eat from the fruit of the tree of Knowledge. He told them "You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die." (Gen. 2:17). But the serpent, which “was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made” said to the woman: "You will not surely die…For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil." (Gen. 3:4-5).

This is just one example where a story in the Bible is told allegorically. Although the Fall did not happen in the literal sense, this myth remains insightful and profound of certain spiritual truths. Adam and Eve represent the two substances that emerge directly from God – the masculine and the feminine energy. In the ancient science of Kabbalah these substances are represented with the Kingdom of Power (Geburah) and the Kingdom of Glory (Gedulah). For those readers who are familiar with the basic Christian Lord’s prayer, the following words should sound familiar: “For Thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen.” (Matthew 6:9-13). God reveals himself through two apostates – the Power, which is the masculine, the active, the assertive part of God, and the Glory, which is the feminine, the passive and receptive part of God. In other words he exercises his power in order to express his glory. Each one of these parts is equally important and cannot exist without the other. The passive part needs the active one in order to assert its actions in the outer world (Eve makes Adam pick up the fruit), but the active part needs the passive one in order to express itself (Adam needs Eve in order to know himself).

Although both energies emanate from the same source and cannot exist one without the other, there are some primary differences between them. In the first place, the masculine energy being more straightforward and direct is more diligent in obeying the God’s Law – the serpent did not succeed in converting directly Adam to its cause. The feminine energy being more receptive and intuitive is in a position to pick up certain spiritual vibrations that could be used to derive particular benefits, especially on the earth plane. In fact, in this case, Eve concluded an agreement with the serpent, which she believed would be beneficial for both her and Adam. Little she knew, though, that these actions would lead to their fall from the Garden of Eden. As a consequence they were cast from there into a world where it hurts to give birth and where one has to work hard to make a living. In essence this was the “death” of which God warned the man and the woman.

The fact that it was Eve who was initially enticed by the serpent has another connotation as well. The whole Universe is based on the battle of the two forces – good and evil. In the Genesis this duality is depicted as God and the serpent. God inhabits his heavenly home, while the serpent is bound to “crawl on its belly and eat dust” (Genesis 2:14). This is another example where the things are depicted allegorically. Crawl on its belly and eat dust means being bound to the physical reality. If we take the serpent to represent the Devil, who is delegated with the responsibility to rule the physical reality on earth, then it becomes obvious why it is represented by a crawling creature. The role of the serpent is not entirely negative, though. After Adam and Eve ate from the fruit of knowledge, as advised by the serpent, their eyes indeed opened and they saw that they were naked. Then they covered themselves with fig leaves, i.e. they started differentiating between good and bad. In this sense the serpent said the truth, because that’s exactly what it promised them – by knowing good from evil they will become like gods.

The bottom line is that Adam and Eve are gradually becoming like gods, because at the end of the day they ate from the fruit of knowledge. The problem is that this process is extremely painful – the life on earth requires hard work to make a living and the childbearing process brings pain. Should Adam have been alone, he probably wouldn’t have touched the forbidden fruit; he would remain in the garden of paradise where he would live in the lap of luxury, but also in complete ignorance. Thus, Adam essentially remained closer to his Father. It was Eve, who initiated the painful process for both of them to become similar to gods. In this respect she alienated herself more from the Father than Adam did. However, from a human perspective, this does not matter at the end, because our spirit is really genderless. It gets reincarnated at least once as a male and once as a female during each of the Great Ages, in order to come into contact with both experiences. These esoteric truths were very well known to ancient people and for this reason the roles of men and women in earliest societies were very well defined.

However, in the humanitarian Age of Aquarius this is all going to change. For the first time in the human history, the earth will undergo dramatic changes that will allow people to express themselves freely and equally, regardless of their nationality, race or sex. Does that mean that we will automatically become all the same? The answer is definitely not. Although for the first time in the human evolution we will be given the opportunity to have equal say in the political and social life, that does not mean that automatically we will be bestowed with the same abilities. Our inner formation will remain different for quite a while and in the coming centuries we will still continue to experience the external reality according to the particular race, nationality or gender to which we belong. It would be complete nonsense to say, for example, that white people generally have the same sense of rhythm, dance and music as black people, or that black people generally are equally good at organizing their material life and place the same emphasis on money and possessions as western people. These differences eventually will fade away with time, but at this stage it is still too early to declare total equality of everybody in everything. Every race, nation or country was created to fulfill particular tasks. Similarly, humanity was divided into two sexes, because certain spiritual lessons can only be learned in one particular gender or another.

A lot of people forget this fact and assume automatically that both sexes are equal by default. The truth is that they are not. Each one of the sexes experiences the external reality differently from the other and that is completely normal. Therefore, there is no need to blame the other part of wrongdoing simply because they do not act and think exactly in the way we do. Some people believe that one of the sexes is “better” than the other. This is not the case too. Although males and females are created for different purposes and fulfill different tasks they both emanate from the same source. The two genders are similar to the left hand and the right hand in the human body. Which one is better? Which one would you prefer to have cut? Although some may say “the right one” or “the left one” the truth is that we need them both in order to function properly. The left hand helps the right one and the right hand helps the left one and we use them both to complete most of the tasks that we do throughout the day. That leads us to the conclusion that neither sex can “win” at the expense of the other. Since they are both hands of the same organism both of them are needed equally in order that the organism functions properly.

However, the difference is in their functions. For example when I sit in front of my laptop in order to write an article for “Universal Mind” I place my right hand on the right side of the keyboard and my left hand on the left side. If I tried to reverse their position on the keyboard so the right hand goes on the left side and the left hand goes on the right side, I wouldn’t be able to write a single word properly. Similarly, a lot of confusion arises between the sexes because their roles in the recent years intermingled.

For thousands of years the roles of men and women in the society were clearly defined. Men were the breadwinners and head of the house. They protected the family and ruled the social life. On the other hand women were mothers, house-keepers and care-givers. They were emotionally supporting their men and were taking care of the progeny. Let’s look again in the Bible and see what Apostle Paul – one of the fathers of the Church – wrote to Ephesians approximately in the year 64 A.D.

“Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is…Wives be subject to your own husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is head of the wife as also Christ is Head of the Church…But as the church is subject to Christ, so also let the wives be subject to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her. That He might sanctify her cleansing her by the washing of the water in the word…In the same way the husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his own wife loves himself…For this cause man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall be one flesh…Nevertheless you also, each one of you, in the same way love your own wife as yourself; and the wife should fear her husband” (Ephesians 5:17-33)

These remarkable sentences give us a significant insight into the foundations upon which the Church was founded in the beginning of the Age of Pisces. The careful analysis of the above text can lead us to the following conclusions.

  1. Many of us experience today a huge shock in relation to the total changes associated with the global planetary switch to the new Age of Aquarius. However, the people living 2,000 years ago had to adjust their values to the new (at the time) Age of Pisces, so they experienced similar shock while changing their attitudes and morals which was not less in magnitude.
  2. Before the switch to the Age of Pisces occurred, it was normal for a man, living in the previous Age of Aries to cohabit with several women one after another or at the same time, to succumb to lust and desires, including homosexual relationships or to divorce with his wife if she didn’t please him in any way (see my article “The Age of Aquarius” in the May issue of Universal Mind). With the proliferation of Christianity in the beginning of the new millennia the men’s attitude towards their wives had to change radically and this idea is clearly described in the Ephesians.
  3. Epistle Paul clearly defines the roles of men and women in the marriage. Note that these ideas are very different to the idea of equality of sexes, typical for our Age of Aquarius.
  4. The reason why it is emphasized in the text that the woman should submit to her man is to make sure that the marriage lasts for the duration of the lifetime of both partners. It is a well-known fact that the family is kept together when the woman wants to keep it together. To make a parallel with our Age of Aquarius, 70% of divorces in Australia are initiated by women. In the beginning of the Age of Pisces, the fathers of the Church prevented this from happening by submitting the woman to the man and thus not giving her a choice to do so.
  5. The sentence saying that the wives must be a subject to their husbands as the church is a subject to Christ refers to the original sin in the story of Adam and Eve, implying that the man remained closer to his Father by resisting the direct temptation of the serpent. Thus, the hierarchy is formed: God-Christ-Man-Woman-Serpent, with each of those, subjecting to the previous one.
  6. The sentence where the man is required to love his wife as part of his own body is truly remarkable one. As we said earlier, if Eve did not exist, Adam would save himself quite a bit of trouble, but since both male and female energies are two parts of the same source, they both have the right of existence and cannot subsist without each other.
  7. And finally, the last sentence is also very clever by asking the men to love their wives, while the wives should fear their husbands. In order to keep the family unit together, the man should love his wife and feel incomplete without her as bound to it by his manly nature and sexual urges. It was envisaged that his reward for being the breadwinner, defender and protector of the family would be the satisfaction that there is somebody out there who he loves and cares about. This makes him feel important and strong (in other words it makes him feel like a real man). The text says that the wife on the other side, should fear (or we may use a better word – should respect) her husband, because without respect it is all too easy for her to lose interest in him and associated with it, breakage of the family.

The common scenario for this last case starts with the initial desire of the woman to dominate the family. This may be provoked by a genuine belief that she knows how to do things better than him. She might be right, but let’s see what happens further. It is all too easy, (especially in the western societies) for the man to give in and to grant her what she wants. However, this process usually does not stop there and the woman then insists to make more and more decisions in the family. The man continues to give in and finally gives up. At the end, the woman is delegated with all the powers and may even become the only decision-maker. The man is convinced that now everything is OK, because he has given her everything that she wanted. However, their roles are now reversed; he is the one who fears her and form this point onwards she loses all her respect towards him and this very often leads to break up. These processes often happen on a subconscious level and often people are not even aware of the reasons why they behave in the way they do. I have seen many cases like this in my practice and can testify that most of the time it all starts with very good intentions, but ends up awfully wrong, basically due to lack of understanding of the nature of men and women. Astrology or studying the ancient scripts is one wonderful eye-opener for many people with problems in their relationships.

In conclusion, I would like to say that since we are almost fully living in the new Age of Aquarius we should be aware of the global changes that are happening. In particular, one great change which that Age brought for women is that it gave them a choice. They can now chose to make a career and participate equally in the social and economic life of the society, or they can chose to dedicate more time to their children or husbands. In previous ages they did not have this choice and were required to become wives and mothers by default. However, embarking on a new Age does not mean that we have to forget all the ancient wisdom and start from scratch. Quite the opposite, we should learn the ancient wisdom and incorporate it into the new conditions of our times. Only by understanding how the things were created in the first place, can we gain insights into why certain trends are emerging at present. With regards to the men-women relationships, it is impossible to understand the other party until we look into the very sources of creation. The Bible for example, can lead us to significant insights in this relation, if we know how to interpret it properly.

Today we concentrated more on the traditional family model, based on the ancient scripts. In the next, final part of this article we will peek into the future in order to see what the Aquarian understanding of a “family” is and how the increasing trend towards homosexuality fits into that model. Finally, we will study the spiritual law of complementing the male and female energies and how this is affecting those of us who are searching for a soul mate.

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